Following stories are works of fiction. The events described in the book never happened and are written only for the reading pleasures of the readers. This book is designated as "brutal" because it is graphic and violent. Yes, it is disturbing to some, but it is simply a dark fantasy.
Rape, a sexual fantasy for women? Is this some sort of sick joke?
Apparently not. These female sex fantasies usually involve a gorgeous man carrying her off to his bedroom and quickly getting down to business. She’ll protest as he tears her clothing off and expertly arouses her body, but on the inside, she’ll love every minute of it. This continues to the point of penetration, and leads her to an incredible orgasm despite her earlier protests.
This description of a fantasy rape is problematic for many reasons. First, the description glamorizes rape as a satisfying sexual experience where the attacker is a gorgeous sex expert and the victim enjoys “every minute of it.” Luckily I have never been raped, but I imagine that many survivors would disagree with this assessment.
Secondly, the description explicitly states a woman’s protest and the attacker’s complete disregard for her pleas for him to stop. We’ve heard it time and time again – “No means no!” – but in this instance “no” is ignored and ends with “an incredible orgasm.”
This depiction of rape is very dangerous. It paints a picture of rape as an enjoyable experience that women crave even if they protest or say no. This type of message creates a huge miscommunication between the sexes in the bedroom. Men may end up thinking that a woman’s doesn’t mean it when she says “no” to sex and that by ignoring her requests he is really appealing to a sexual fantasy of hers, but without consent what he is really doing is raping her.
And herein lies the problem of glamorizing rape as a popular female fantasy – consent, consent, consent! Teaching men to ignore women’s protests during sex doesn’t fulfill a woman’s sexual fantasy – it teaches men to rape women. And what’s worse? It opens the door for further victim blaming and claims that women “really wanted it” or were “asking for it” when they actually meant “no” when they said it.
This isn’t to say that fantasizing about sex is wrong. In fact, a study in the Journal of Sex Research analyzed 20 studies on sexual fantasies in the last 30 years and estimated that 31-57 percent of women have so-called rape fantasies, but sexual fantasies, whatever they may be, are built on feeling safe and in control (or at least they should be) – none of which are true when a woman is actually raped.